Accountability:
Accountability:
The below blog requires an open mind, and some self-reflection. If you decide to do this, it will literally rock your world, and start you on an amazing journey of happiness and success. Please know that I am not trying to be mean, but trying to be as clear as possible to help everyone see how they can drastically change their outlook on life. As Brene Brown says, Clear is Kind!
With that, let’s get into it!
We’ve all heard of people not taking responsibility for their own actions, and have been that person from time to time. (Stop and really reflect, we have allll done this)...these actions are considered being in a “victim” mindset. Examples can range from blaming others for simple arguments all the way to lawsuits.
But did you know that putting yourself in the victim mindset actually limits your potential success and happiness?
The victim mindset gives your power to someone else, or relies on the current circumstances you’re in. You’re true potential cannot be met if you give that power away.
This goes for EVERYTHING in your life - do you feel like you keep getting passed over for a promotion at work? (I know I did). Do you feel your health is staggering, even though you feel you have a good doctor? (I felt the same way). What did you do in response?
You can choose 1 of 2 paths: be the VICTIM or start being ACCOUNTABLE! I will show examples of both below; but first I want to explain why accountability gives you back ownership of your happiness and success!
Accountability is NOT about blaming others or yourself, but it is about acknowledging you’re role in the outcome of a situation. If you think really hard, you can always find something you could have done better in every situation (we’re not perfect, remember). Accountability is not concerned with fault, but more so what it takes to create better results.
—Here are the examples I mentioned above—
For the work scenario:
Victim: I always get passed up for promotions, they are pigeonholing me, my boss doesn’t like me, etc.
Accountability mindset: I will talk with my manager, and dig deep with them to understand why I am not getting promoted. I will take anything that I might not like to hear in that conversation, and use it to make myself better. I will make sure it is clear to him/her that I want to work hard to achieve the promotion, and we will work together to outline the steps I need to take to achieve this promotion.
In the health scenario:
Victim mindset: My doctor is in charge of my health, because he prescribes me the drugs I need. If I’m not healthy, it’s because of my genes or my Dr. not being good enough.
Accountability mindset: I am in charge of my health, because I see my doctor several times a year. I spend more time with myself than my Dr. does; I cannot fully give him/her the power of making me healthy, because it is MY job to ensure I am healthy through DAILY practice. I know that over 75% of diseases are preventable with my lifestyle choices!!
Do you notice a drastic difference in the responses of these two examples? I was on the victim mindset for these previously, but am on the other side of them now. If I can do it, so can you! Having control over your own success truly is life changing! If you want to learn more about how to do this, you know where I am - I would be glad to help.